Our confidence is tightly intertwined with how we perceive ourselves on the inside. Perhaps it's time to set aside negative self-talk, doubts, and embrace a more positive and self-affirming mindset.
Here's a thought-provoking question for you: What's the first thing you feel in the morning when you wake up? Are you filled with happiness and excitement, eagerly looking forward to the day ahead, or do you find yourself tired, miserable, and secretly wishing you could stay in bed forever? And when you gaze into the mirror, do you see a confident, radiant version of yourself, feeling like the world is your oyster, or do you catch yourself in a negative self-talk spiral, critiquing your appearance with thoughts like 'Oh, I'm fat, look at those stretch marks, and my nose... I hate my nose so much!'.
If you've ever wondered why some women, perhaps rated as 3/10 in conventional beauty standards, receive an abundance of attention, love, and opportunities, while you, a beautiful woman, feel like you're missing out, the answer lies within your mindset and self-perception.
Today, I'm thrilled to share with you five simple tips that I incorporate into my private coaching sessions to enhance my clients' love lives and elevate their self-esteem levels. These straightforward exercises may be simple, yet they are incredibly effective. To see results, it's crucial to maintain discipline and follow these guidelines meticulously.
#1. Stop Negative Talk
For the next month you're fobidden to say anything negative to yourself! Ask yourself this: Would you ever utter such cruel words to your best friend? Most likely not. So, why subject yourself to all this self-deprecating talk? I firmly believe in the power of thoughts, and from personal experience, I've witnessed how negative self-talk can deteriorate your outlook on your face, body, and life.
You're forbidden to utter phrases like 'I'm lazy,' 'I'm fat,' 'I'll never achieve this,' 'I won't ever get married or find true love,' 'I'm not enough,' 'my legs suck,' 'I'm not responsible,' or anything else that falls within this negative spectrum. These thoughts should be banned from your mind.
It won't be easy at first, as your brain has grown accustomed to this way of thinking. Our brains tend to gravitate toward negativity, making it easier for us to focus on the downsides rather than the positive aspects. If you find it challenging to stop these thoughts, try wearing a hairband on your wrist. Whenever you catch yourself thinking negatively, gently snap the hairband against your wrist. It's a simple but effective way to interrupt those unhelpful thought patterns.
Otherwise, for every negative thought, replace it with a statement of gratitude for yourself. For example, if you catch yourself thinking, "I'm so lazy," immediately counter it with "I'm grateful that last week I finished that complex project." Or if you thought "I'm so ugly," immediately shift your focus to something beautiful like "I have beautiful eyes" or "I'm grateful that my smile lights up the room."
The next tip will further assist you in eliminating negative self-perception.
#2. Compliment Yourself Endlessly
My coaching clients are typically highly intelligent, successful women who have achieved a great deal in their professional lives. They possess beauty and charm, although they often fail to recognize or acknowledge it. They tend to be quite critical of themselves, and this exercise plays a significant role in helping them recognize their true worth and beauty.
It's simple. You need to tell yourself 30 compliments each day for a month. Forget to do it one day? Simply start counting anew and continue the practice.
What kind of compliments? Any kind of compliments will work! You can compliment yourself for the little things, like waking up in the morning: "I'm so amazing that I woke up today." Or if you break your favorite porcelain cup, you can say, "Oh, I'm so funny how dramatically I shattered that cup." Have a great hair day? "I love my hair today. I look fabulous."
Compliment every step of your day, from the tiniest to the largest achievements, from the not-so-great moments to the amazing ones. To make it easy, I recommend dividing your day into three parts and giving yourself 10 compliments during each part. Don't try to cram all 30 compliments into one session before bedtime; that won't be as effective. Instead, spread them out throughout your day to get the best results.
#3. Five Minutes of Happiness
Last year, I grappled with severe depression. I found it incredibly challenging to get out of bed, and tears were a constant companion. At times, I even questioned my will to carry on. It was a tough journey, but with therapy and medication, I decided to make a commitment to nurture my own happiness.
During this challenging period and even now, I turned to a remarkably simple yet willpower-demanding exercise. I named it the '5 Minutes of Happiness.'
Here's how it works: stand up, strike a superhero pose, tense your muscles, and give the biggest, most genuine smile you can muster. Do this for just 5 minutes before resuming your day. You don't have to believe in it initially, especially if you're feeling down. However, this exercise sends positive signals to your body and brain, forging new neural connections. To reap the benefits, it's essential to stick with it for the full five minutes each time.
After a month or two of daily practice, you'll start to notice a shift in your mindset and energy levels
#4. Jump Your Way to Happiness
This practice may seem a bit silly, but I absolutely love it. I learned it from my coach, and it works like magic!
Here's how it goes: Every morning, as soon as you wake up, I want you to start your day with a big smile and some enthusiastic jumping. While doing this, repeat the following affirmation: "Three amazing and magical things are going to happen to me today!" It's a fun and uplifting way to set a positive tone for your day.
I truly believe in the power of affirmations, and when I incorporated this "jumping" practice into my daily routine, I witnessed remarkable shifts in my reality. I crossed paths with incredible people, received travel suggestions, and unexpected gifts, and witnessed an increase in clients for my business.
Why not give it a try for yourself?
#5. The List of Accomplishments
This one's a marathon, so make sure to clear your schedule and be prepared to stay seated until you've completed it. No breaks allowed! Your mission is to jot down a whopping 100 of your accomplishments, no matter how absurd or trivial they may seem.
- Successfully managed to keep a houseplant alive for an entire year (miraculous for a self-proclaimed plant killer).
- Managed to remember your online banking password without having to reset it.
- Navigated a chaotic IKEA visit without getting lost or divorced.
- Graduated from high school with honors
- Survived a karaoke night without causing any glassware to shatter.
- Volunteered for a local charity and made a positive impact on your community
- Signed a $3000 client during a call
- Set a personal record for binge-watching an entire TV series in a single weekend
It should contain 100 or more achievements. Wrote less than 100? It doesn't count.
What to do with this list? You're going to read it to yourself like a bedtime story. Moreover, you're going to build yourself a "Winner Wall." The "Winner Wall" is a visible place in your home where you display all your diplomas, certificates, client reviews, and meaningful items that remind you of your power. This wall isn't about flaunting your success to others; it's a personal sanctuary of inspiration and motivation. This way you will be reminded daily about your self-worth and value.
Want to Feel Happy, Loved and Beautiful?
I hope you've found these five incredible tips for enhancing your self-esteem and nurturing your inner beauty both insightful and inspiring. These exercises are undeniably powerful, and I wholeheartedly recommend incorporating them into your daily routine. My private coaching clients have witnessed remarkable transformations by embracing these practices.
If you're eager to make substantial improvements in your dating life, relationships, and various other aspects of your personal journey, I extend a warm invitation to join my coaching program.
This three-month program offers the flexibility of self-paced learning or guided mentorship. With this program, I provide an array of additional exercises to ensure that you experience happiness every single day of your life. Remember, it's entirely achievable, and you absolutely deserve it!
The outcomes of this program include discovering genuine love, cultivating an enhanced self-image, securing job promotions, unlocking new opportunities, and ultimately finding greater satisfaction in your life. If this is something your heart desires email me here and I'd love to take your hand on this journey!